A little bit of thinking

Tomorrow is my big date with Coach and I'm of course super excited. I was edging this morning and I couldn't help but notice something. In porn from latin countries there is a whole lot more touching and affection then you see in a lot of things that come from the US. Well that got me thinking about something I heard the other day. The Today show was taking a look at what different Hispanic people have done and one was talking about how she made this glove to help premature babies adapt to being touched since most premature babies gain an aversion to touch as they get older. She said that she is Hispanic she grew up in a culture that does a lot of touching. Well that clicked for me. In the US we aren't that into touching. I remember reading a paper in one of my classes about how a French boy got in trouble for hand holding or hugging or something in school. Well he grew up where you kissed on the cheek, hugged, and showed a lot more physical affection. I think that's one reason why there is so much anger and animosity in our culture. We are so busy trying to make money that mothers can't feel comfortable being with their kids for longer than a few weeks before going back to work. We learn early on in kindergarten to keep our hands to ourselves. We learn to stay in our own bubble and not to enter anyone else's without permission. We are scared into not touching each other by learning about sexual harassment. Two people can't really hugged without it being assumed they are a couple. It's no wonder why you can rarely find a child who has a secure attachment to a caregiver. Basically a secure attachment refers to how a child's needs have been met early on in their development. The worst of the worst is dysfunctional attachment which usually shows neglect or child abuse. A lot of us have C attachments which is right above the dysfunctional attachment. We had our needs met, but nothing above and beyond that. Hence why we have trouble with physical affection.

Well all of this brought me up to advice I gave one of my dads. I said to make sure to spend at least 10 minutes uninterrupted doing some form of physical contact. It doesn't have to be sexual like holding hands, cuddling, massaging, etc. Well this also got me thinking. I should do some sexperiments on Coach. My mind actually does work like this on a lesser scale. It's just more erratic in thinking since I'm on Hemo Rage. How I made that big jump was that it was advice I heard from the movie Hope Springs and that got me thinking about the sexercises in the movie, which got me to think of some sexperiments. Now these won't be cruel things like can we have good sex without touching or something crazy like that. Just different things that I've seen or thought of that might enhance sex. And to make it a true sexperiment, Coach won't know about what I might or might not do ahead of time. I'll also be sharing the results with you the readers. The reason being is that sometimes it's nice to get new ideas. No two guys are alike and no two couples are alike, but you may read something that you want to try. For instance I like to rim, but when I'm getting rimmed it's a toss of the coin. Sometimes it makes me nearly cum and other times I find it annoying. The only way I learned that was to sexperiment. One thing I have learned that seems to work on guys universally (least the several I've tried it on) is to kiss and softly suck on a guy's adam's apple. Maybe it's not so much what I'm doing, but how I'm doing it, but give it a try. You do have to be careful cause if you do it too hard it might choke him. That one is a freebie. I'm not sure what I'm going to try on Coach this weekend, but I think he'll enjoy it whatever I choose and if he doesn't he won't know I did it until Monday.